The biggest personal growth and Self Development tip I can give you, is to focus on building up your self esteem!  How many times have you missed out on an opportunity because of your lack of self esteem? Have you ever fumbled and stuttered at a job interview, and blurted out the wrong answer to a simple question and failed completely – even though you knew you were right for the job?
Or, the girl of your dreams finally accepts a date and you bungle through the evening blowing your chances of a lifelong romance,(darn it!)

Personal Growth and Self Development balances on this main issue. If you get this right, everything else miraculously seems to follow step. To make downright sure this doesn’t happen ever again, follow these three simple steps.

First. Don’t let external opinions influence you.

You must learn to not worry about other people’s opinions. I remember reading about two famous film-stars once. They were both being interviewed. They both had  been involved in slanderous law suits.  One, had been completely devastated and had ruined her career. The other one had gone on to higher and more glorious things. >The interviewer noticed the difference in the two stars’ attitude so he asked the one who was calmly answering his questions about that difficult time in her career and, as to  what her secret was. “Oh, I never, ever bother reading about what people think of me,” was the reply. “ I know who I am.

Moral: Start paying attention to how often you allow the opinions of others to chip away at your self-confidence. You must  make an effort to interrupt this self-limiting pattern and to change it for the better

Second, Focus on Having a Definite Purpose.

This is so important to personal growth and self development that I would like to shout it from the rooftops. It is important because it funnels your energy. It helps you develop the trait of decisiveness which is a sign of firm self confidence. If you think of insecure people they always seem to not know what they want. Think of people you know who have self confidence. Don’t they seem to stride  confidently into a room. If they  are asked to decide on an appointment time, they will tell you straight away. They are usually well organized.
Many people seem to lack self confidence because they honestly don’t know what they want.

Tip. Get a notebook and start jotting down ideas. It doesn’t matter if they are random at first. Write yourself the question. What do I really want to do with my life? If you can’t come up with a full life time goal try to find out what you really want to do now, or this year or maybe in the next five years. If every  pilot took off not knowing where he was going, was a mess there would be in our skies!

Third. Begin to watch and Change your Inner Dialogue.

Most people hate and are affected by other people’s criticism.  Absurdly, one thing they seem to overlook is the harsh, unkind comments they make to themselves.

Let me give you a couple of examples and I would be surprised if you haven’t heard your inner voice saying this to you. No, why did I do that again!  I can’t do a darn thing right today. When you check out the mirror what do you say? Oh my gosh, look at all those awful  lines. I look ghastly ! My eyes are too far apart, My nose is too big…the yakkity yakkity yak goes on and on. Admit it! Once again, isn’t it strange that we do this?  It’s unbelievable really. So you’ve got to stop this. You start by inserting in nice things about yourself. Things you would like other people say to you.

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Make Your Own Personal Growth and Self Development Notebook.

Write them down and read them to yourself to begin with. At first, they will seem silly and untrue, so pick things that have a certain basis for a start. Begin taking these

baby steps  towards your personal growth and self development.  As a result, others will begin to respect you more, because what you are thinking to yourself will be boomeranged  right back to you. Let me give you one last example to finish off.

“Emily.”
When I was at High School, there was one girl ( I will call her Emily for the purpose of privacy )  who was not particularly pretty. In fact , she had awkward features. She had two sisters, both of whom were pretty and the younger one was an absolute stunner!  Strangely enough, you would think that  Emily  would have a complex. For some reason, she had  a good opinion of herself. Her actions were decisive. She spoke up confidently in front of all the pimple-cheeked boys who should have been drooling  over her sisters (and us, we often thought wryly! ) I remember Emily telling me that she had a crush on the one boy we all had a crush on. He was dark haired and very good looking. She, despite her awkward features chatted with him pleasantly. She had no problems sitting with him and being entertaining  company the full 18 miles of hot bus ride. We watched this, in envy and disbelief, day after day, after day!

What Happened To Emily?

As she was a few grades behind me, I finally left school before her and went to University. Years later, I found out that she had married “the bus hero” whereas the other  two sisters were  still unmarried. I  had often observed her and thought to myself, Why does she have so much confidence. She has a big nose and heavy eyebrows and to cap it off , big hips! What we used to call in Australia, a horsey face.  How wrong I was, she had the most important treasure  that a person interested in personal growth and self development should aim at acquiring.  She had rock-solid  unshakeable self esteem!

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